FIVE LESSONS THAT I LEARNED AT MY MOTHER’S FEET
(Or Walking Alongside Her)
By
David P. Kraft
At
Memorial Celebration of Life of Marian N Kraft, 3/19/1912 to 8/20/2006
Bible Church of Waterbury, CT
September 9,
2006
I thought of
how to present some of my thoughts and reflections on my mother’s
importance in my life. I decided to present a list of lessons I learned
from her that were important to my growth and development, presented in
no particular order of importance. All of these lessons were
based on Mom’s faith in God, through Jesus Christ, and the practice of
her faith to the best of her ability.
[My help
with teaching swimming to handicapped individuals, and Mom’s help
getting me a job as director of a summer day camp for handicapped
children when I was in college, helped me learn the value of working
with the Developmentally Disabled to assist them to succeed and grow,
despite their limitations—now 40% of my practice.]
One example
included the goal for Mom & Dad of putting all of their children
through college, which was more than fulfilled. A second example
involved Mom keeping in touch with friends of each of her children, and
sharing information through letters with how those friends were doing,
and in some cases treating them as part of the family. [Mom often
believed in some of these friends more than their own families, which
proved valuable to them.]
[Mom’s
interest in what we were doing and places we were seeing was
endless—even if she didn’t understand some of the details. Even
though she could not have climbed Kilimanjaro, for example, or travel
to the Arctic Ocean, she vicariously enjoyed our adventures.]
[I have
thought often of that talk when I was about 16 years old, trying to
decide which college to attend and which courses to pursue. The
feeling that she had advised as best she could, but that I needed to
seek counsel from other people who had gone to college and had a
broader experience was very freeing for me, and demonstrated her trust
in my abilities to consult & choose.]
At the end of her life, I was massaging her feet and she relaxed. I thought she was asleep, so I stopped rubbing her feet, when she suddenly raised her head, looked at me, and said “That felt good—why’d you stop?” I resumed the massage, and she moved her head back into the pillow, grinning from ear to ear, and closed her eyes. Those were the last words I remember her saying. May she rest at last in this life. She continues to live within me and many others who will miss her presence.