it's the lack of everything the feeling i had with you then the darkness and mystery of the happy unknown and it's not so bad now but the never recapturing of anything most of all the promise of promise now gilded over by a not so bad now but still the comfort of a future with promise to be dealt with at a later date unlike the not so bad now where promise is not and future is and has to be dealt with and not so bad really is only euphemism and gloss for the sad fruition of all the promise in the world